The One Thing You DO Have Control Of…YOU!



Have you ever had a thought going around and around in your head to the point of feeling completely out of control…to the point you are going to explode…or perhaps implode? I find myself doing this way to often in the middle of the night! There is a way out…a way to soothe and gain control…it’s called YOU! Our perception of something is just that…OUR perception. Our reaction to how someone is being is just that…OUR reaction. Those times when we allow something or someone to take our control becomes a challenge to grow and be better…and happier! Embracing conflict, differences, and overload allows us to have choice in life..for each of us to be the individual we are here to be. We are all on our own life path and have the choice to struggle or be sane…and all the wonderful places in between!

Why do some of us choose to struggle while others choose to be sane?Perhaps our past creates a crevice we fall back into from time to time. I know hormones can intensify my perception…AND how I react! Being AWARE of what you DO know is key. Of course there are things that influence our choices…however…how we choose to think and feel both mentally and physically is right inside each and everyone of us. Making a conscious effort to stop…pause…and talk it out with yourself, with someone else, or both…diffuses the intensity and gives perspective. ¬†Venting is the best medicine ever! Ask yourself…”How can I feel better about this?”…”How can I be the best me!?” Start by telling yourself…”I CAN make a difference with the way I am feeling by ___.” Your answer must be something YOU can do…not an expectation of what something else or someone else could be or do!


Find that place within yourself where you can balance the anxiety with the elation you desire…and decide to be there! If we didn’t have bad times, we wouldn’t know what good times are! Light your candle and don’t allow anything or anyone to blow it out. Everyone has something that they enjoy…if you say you don’t…you have simply chosen to forget. And if you are adamant about not enjoying anything…well hallelujah! You now have no excuse because YOU can change that right this second. Nothing or no one controls your peace of mind…only YOU! ¬†Without interjecting anything or anyone into the question…ask yourself…”What would make me smile and feel better right now?” Don’t expect the situation or person to be different…YOU be different…and amazing moments will begin to happen! Taking control of YOU is a choice…saying you “can’t” is deciding you “won’t.” Therefore, if you are unhappy, you are choosing to be unhappy! You have the control to choose exactly where you want to be!

4 thoughts on “The One Thing You DO Have Control Of…YOU!”

  1. This is your best post yet! I really liked it. I’ve always valued the idea that you’re 100% in control of your attitude, effort, and decisions. Our world is simply the perception that we have and the meanings that we assign things to. So happy to see you putting this out in the world. “The best way to learn is to teach.” The questions part is really spot on. I’ve learned that asking poor questions gives your poor answers. For example, “Why does this always happen to me?… Because I’m an idiot!” versus, “How can I learn from this and prevent it in the future?” Asking yourself quality questions can be really powerful. Thanks for your awesome insights. Keep doing your thing Momma KK! Love you!

    “The bad news is time flies. The good news is you are the pilot.” – Michael Altshule

  2. Life is 10% what happens to you… 90% how you react to it.

    Momma KK lessons at their finest. I don’t know how many times I have spun out of control in my head trying to figure out… Why are people so shitty?! What did I do to deserve this?! Why is this happening to me?! Why is he such an asshole?! How could she betray me like that?! When really, I need to slow the fuck down, take a step back and realize I have ZERO control over their actions… However, I have COMPLETE control over my reactions… to the bullshit.. LOL. It used to take hour-long phone calls with my momma to make me realize this little key to life. Now with a few tears of disappointment, a couple typed out and deleted (before I send them and regret it) angry texts and several deep breaths, I am able to come to this realization all on my own. And in just a few moments… I’m smiling… and even laughing at the situation as a whole. MOVING ON… Haha! The debrief phone call with Mom is still always appreciated…

    I guess what I am trying to say is, thank you for always being there, working through and supporting me with life lessons. I now know… Life won’t change until I change.

    1. As I read your words, a tear of joy rolls down my smiling face…I will always be there for you, Kaley, and it feels so good to know you are “getting” this early in your life…rather than later like me!

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